By Andrew Ferebee…
1. 80% of People in Relationships Are Settling
Statistics back this up.
The majority of people who are currently in relationships are NOT in the relationship because they love the other person.
They’re in it because they’re too scared to be alone and figure things out by themselves.
If you aren’t absolutely THRILLED about your partner and your life together, then you’re settling.
This isn’t to say that relationships don’t take work or that you don’t go through periods of stress… But most people simply don’t love their partner the way they claim to.
They’re simply terrified of being alone.
2. No Matter How Amazing Someone Is You Can’t Love them If They Don’t Love Themselves
This doesn’t mean that you and your partner need to have equal levels of self-esteem and self-love. But if your partner doesn’t love themselves and care for themselves (especially if you do) the relationship is headed for an inevitable break.
A relationship isn’t about two incomplete people fulfilling each other.
It’s about two whole people falling in love and sharing life together.
3. You WILL Fall Out of Love
This isn’t my opion, it’s a scientific fact.
This is how the brain works. After the initial phase of lust and attraction (typically 18–36 months) your brain will literally stop producing feel good and bonding hormones for a while to make sure that you see your partner for who they really are.
When this happens, don’t freak out. Use this period of relative clear-mindedness to decide whether or not your partner is the right fit for you.
4. It Probably Won’t Last (Especially If You’re Younger than 30)
This is just a statistical reality.
This doesn’t mean that it can’t last if you’re both mature, intelligent, and loving.
But chances are good it won’t last.
5. Your Partner Probably Won’t Change that Much
If you’re in a relationship waiting for your partner to change, then you’re waiting for something that will never happen.
Your partner will change, but not in ways that you can control.
If you’ve fallen in love with someone’s potential, just get out now. Because you’ll never be satisfied with who they really are.
6 . You or Your Partner Will Die and Leave the Other Person Alone
Sucks don’t it.
Unless you and your partner are lucky enough to die together, one of you will die first and leave the other person heartbroken and alone.
Brace yourself for it.
7. The Grass is Greenest Where It’s Watered… Fvck Your Fence
If you’re in a relationship and you believe that the grass is greener on the other side, that you need a new partner to make you happy, you’re wrong.
The grass is greenest where it’s watered.
Yes, you need to make sure you selected the right partner.
But oftentimes, people will leave relationships because they think their partner is the problem even though they are the ones who aren’t investing in a relationship.
The grass is never greener on the other side of the fence, it’s greener where you water it.
If you’re in a toxic relationship right now, you don’t need another relationship. You need to work on yourself so that you can attract the right partner.
If the relationship has gone stale, you don’t need another person to make you happy. You need to invest in your existing relationship to try and bring the excitement back.
Fuck your fence.
8. You Don’t Need a Relationship to Be Happy (And you’re screwed if you do)
Plain and simple.
If you think you need another person to “complete” you or make you happy, then you’ve already lost.
Learn to be happy by yourself or you’ll never be happy with another person.
End of story.
Hope this helps