Ah, envy: that little green monster that often seems to bring so much pain. It can rear its ugly head at friends, colleagues, family members, and spouses. It can affect your courage, clarity of vision, emotional serenity, persistence, intelligence, happiness or success.
In a patriarchal society like ours, what do you do when you make more money than he does? What if he has become a bit sensitive about it, and is now obsessed with splitting all the bills and household costs right down?
Talk about it
Talking about your personal short-term goals frequently means you both know about and respect each other’s current financial abilities. Be clear in advance of things like flights, hotels and travels. That way, even if you have to evenly split all the expenses, there’d be no resentment. Instead, he knows that you’re ready to be an active participant in taking care of all the bills.
Keep your finances separate
Retain the power to spend your money how you like and the ability to save, should anything not go as planned. Keep your finances separate; he should have his account and you yours. Though both of you obviously know how much the other earns, having separate bank accounts means that neither of you can monitor each other’s spending, even if you wanted to. And because your treats come out of your pocket and his treats come out of his, there’ll be no reason for the other person to be affected or concerned.
There are instances where you will have to be flexible and do more than share costs. Perhaps he needs extra money for a verified business idea, one-time purchase, or wants to lend money to a family member. Spend a little less that month, and let your him have a percentage of your income. Your efforts will be appreciated, and hopefully, that effort and thought will be returned.
Both of you need to work in tandem to get through any financial issue that may arise from the income inequality. You must open the lines of communication and plan how to deal with the differences in your earnings.
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